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A group member who talks too much, rambles on repeatedly and is generally dominant may be related to:
- a natural need for attention
- feelings of inadequacy or insecurity in relation to the topic
- wanting to flaunt a large vocabulary or extensive knowledge
- having the most authority
Some possible suggestions to consider are:
- glance at your watch while the participant is speaking
- during a pause for breath, thank the participant for their comments, and restate the agenda
- emphasising relevant points and time limits
- ask the participant to explain how their comments adds value to the topic in hand
- reflect their comments back to the group
- remind everyone of the time limit
- privately speak with the person outside of the session.
Communication might work here. Have you spoke with her (away from others) to see if you can help to get her to group on time? It may be she has trouble getting out the door, maybe having someone offer to give her a ride might help. Have you checked to see how she gets to the group, maybe the bus connections make her late? Maybe ask her to help you set up for the group; asking her to come early may help. Have you checked to see if she has the correct time for the group? Are you making assumptions about why she is late? It maybe she is late for everything and your group is no different. Do the others in the group become upset with her being late? Has someone brought it to your attention? Ask yourself the classic question…Who owns the problem?
This is a big question. Giving people your home number opens you up to recovering calls any time about any parenting issue. Some people might never call, however others may see you as their private and personal parenting resource person. You have no way of knowing whether a person is respectful of your private time. I would try to figure out a better system with the organization that takes the calls so you can get the messages. Giving out your phone number is likely not the best solution.
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